11 Differences Between Dating A Girl And A Woman

“A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated through her looks and sexuality, that she uses this as her primary tool to get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her values, her contributions, her humanity.” -Huffington  Post

Recently the above quote appeared on the Facebook page of the Huffington Post. While the quote itself is an interesting perspective to ponder, I am going to have to disagree. We live in a society that places high value on the appearance of women AND girls.  Females of all ages have a difficult time navigating the media images and societal they are bombarded with on a daily basis. Honestly I feel this quote has a demeaning tone to it, as if women are not allowed to lack confidence. Confidence and maturity are not automatically co-existent.  From the time parents learn the sex of their baby they begin to genderize them into what society has said is appropriate. Pink and frilly outfits are bought. Cute purple onesies with flowers. Babies are admired “what a pretty girl.” Unfortunately, this event replays throughout a female’s childhood. They hear “what a pretty girl” “What a pretty dress” “I like your shoes” The focus on appearance begins from before day one even. Girls grow in awareness that their looks are a desirable feature to be attained to a standard set forth by society. Although the heyday of the “waif” supermodel seems behind us, thinness is still the standard promoted as the norm. This standard applies to females of all ages. It does not make one less woman and more “girl” if they lack confidence. Thankfully in our modern society there is a culture developing to encourage girls and woman to attain more than beauty. Beyonce sings “who Runs the World?” and her chorus answers “Girls!” Actresses of all body types are seen on television. Yet the pretty slender girl still get the handsome boy. We are making progress, but still have a ways to go as a society that embraces girls AND women in ALL forms. We all need to do our part to change this. We can start by saying “what a smart girl” when we compliment female children. We can praise their abilities, talent and intelligence from day one. Once we change this, girls AND women will feel validated. There will be no difference.

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2 thoughts on “11 Differences Between Dating A Girl And A Woman

  1. Love this. Amazingly insightful!
    Mel xx

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