I recently saw this article posted on a friend’s Facebook page. The story discusses a bar in Washington state that has created a drink entitled “Date Grape Kool Aid.” Apparently its quite the hit among some folks….while others are outraged, and rightly so.
I get this is America where almost nothing that can be labeled “humor” is off limits. Freedom of Speech & all. But just cause you can does that mean you SHOULD? I think a bar naming a drink to be funny ab date rape is in poor poor taste, I would not find it funny and would not give my business to a bar that found it funny.. Even making light of something through (offensive) humor is essentially downplaying it, while reinforcing the concepts around rape culture. To expand, the definition of “rape culture: “Rape Culture is an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which sexual violence against women is normalized and excused in the media and popular culture. Rape culture is perpetuated through the use of misogynistic language, the objectification of women’s bodies, and the glamorization of sexual violence, thereby creating a society that disregards women’s rights and safety.
Rape Culture affects every woman. The rape of one woman is a degradation, terror, and limitation to all women. Most women and girls limit their behavior because of the existence of rape. Most women and girls live in fear of rape. Men, in general, do not. That’s how rape functions as a powerful means by which the whole female population is held in a subordinate position to the whole male population, even though many men don’t rape, and many women are never victims of rape. This cycle of fear is the legacy of Rape Culture.”
This IS America folks. Rape culture exists. To have a drink making light of something as serious as rape only serves to downplay it. Kool Aid is talking about taking a stand against use of their product in this and I WHOLLY SUPPORT that. Because, while the bar has a right to express themselves, Kool Aid (Kraft Foods) has the right to do the same.
There are many other ways that people can dispel rape culture.
- Avoid using language that objectifies or degrades women
- Speak out if you hear someone else making an offensive joke or trivializing rape
- If a friend says she has been raped, take her seriously and be supportive
- Think critically about the media’s messages about women, men, relationships, and violence
- Be respectful of others’ physical space even in casual situations
- Always communicate with sexual partners and do not assume consent
- Define your own manhood or womanhood. Do not let stereotypes shape your actions.
- Get involved! Join a student or community group working to end violence against women.
And lastly, dont drink the Kool Aid.