Gun Control: there is no debate

“The Quarter Quell were written in the law by man, certainly it can be unwritten” (Hunger
Games: Catching Fire)

This past month has brought a new push towards gun control like none before. The Parkland shooting has brought forth a new movement from a group previously dismissed: teenagers. And they aren’t backing down. I feel hopeful in watching these younger people speaking out. They are inspiring to those of us in generations before them. We as adults must be moved to action too. Our country is long overdue for a firm conversation on gun control. We must insist on it – from each other, from our local, state and federal officials. We owe it to our children and ourselves.

In social media, any conversation quickly turns ugly Don’t be afraid of talking! Talk to your friends. Encourage dialogue. Insist on commonsense. Insist on respect. It is easy to dialogue within a bubble of agreement. The hard work is trying to communicate and find understanding among those with differing opinions. I’m not naive to the difficulties but try we must. This is how change happens.

In state buildings around the country, talk to your representatives. Remind them you are the voter. Share your views. Encourage representatives to act in ways that are constructive to the well being of the voters they represent,

On Capitol Hill, we must insist on getting big money out of politics. The NRA should NOT be able to buy votes and keep votes from coming to the floor. The NRA should only get a vote via its individual members and the ones they cast. Anything more is inappropriate and needs to be called out. These are OUR representatives and they need to answer to us. Our elected officials need reminding they are elected and so to can be unelected. They aren’t in their positions because they’re great people who deserve an endless stream of kickbacks and perks. They are there to serve us, we the people.

This sort of thinking is steeped in so many fallacies it stands to reason that the people worried about
having their guns taken away maybe are proving they aren’t fit to own them in the first place. I
understand that might be an inflammatory statement but it speaks to the truth I witness daily. People
who speak in fear and paranoia, not rooted in any logic, are not the sort of people who should be
allowed a weapon that can kill in a split second, can we at least agree on that? Folks the DMV did not take away cars when people were required to register them, pass a test showing a competence & get a
license proving capabilities. There is nothing wrong with us requiring the same for guns.

In looking outside of ourselves we an look towards other countries who have had success in this area.
There are many to choose from who have citizens free to bear arms but who also must show
competence both mentally and with regards to use of their firearm. This is just commonsense.

In supporting the activities of the younger set, such as the their national walkout, we must come
alongside as allies and do our own due diligence. We owe it to them.


You say I’m a DREAMer, but I’m not the only one

Today as many feared at the very beginning of Donald Trump’s presidency, he chose to end the DACA program. In a statement on his official Facebook page and the White House official website, TRump claimed more of his “putting America first” rhetoric by citing “the unemployed and the forgotten.” While I’m sure that pads the egos of the bigoted, the racist and the plain ignorant..the reality is there’s no shortage of college opportunities here. There’s no shortage of spots in schools or jobs on Craigslist. If YOU are not qualified for a job, that is a YOU problem. If YOU don’t have the skills to compete in the job market, YOU can fix it. If YOU want to college, its as simple as applying, or in  terms of junior college GOING. The racist ignorant fool sector of our country -and don’t kid yourselves, its sizeable- is greatly apparent in the citing of “our” jobs, “our” schools, “our” rights, “our” tax dollars….

Well guess what? Schools are funded by property taxes. And plenty of immigrants own homes. Those are their tax dollars too!

“our jobs.” Whose jobs? There’s no reserve on jobs for you. If you cant compete with someone who had less advantages than you, that’s something for you to consider –in the seeking of getting yourself up to speed.

“our rights.” Um, no. All people have Constitutional rights in this country. The Constitution wasn’t written for some, it was written for all. Congress could have acted  had they truly felt DACA was “illegal.” They chose not to

Sadly its this sizeable sector that is more at fault for our current state than Trump. Trump is but a reflection playing to the masses. The neo Nazis, the KKK, the good ol’ boys, the middle America who chose to not  seek higher education and now find themselves edged out of a competitive workforce…they need someone to blame for their lacking. The NeoNazis, the KKK,  the good ol’ boys waving Confederate flags are the ones stuck in the past clinging to their coal mining jobs, the paper industry and all the other obsolete job seekers Trump has pandered to. They’d like to blame “immigrants” for their own lack of hindsight but truly the blame rests on them. The blame rests on us. For far too long we have allowed racism to persist in this country unacknowledged. We try to tell ourselves everyone is equal & everyone’s the same. And they are. But not everyone thinks that. A lot of people don’t think that. The cry for “our” jobs, “our” tax dollars, “our” rights…almost squarely comes from white men (& women) finding themselves having to compete on even footing for the first time in their lives.  No, you do not have claim to any job, any education, any opportunity you choose…YOU need to work for it too. Its a hard pill to swallow, and as we see now not everyone wants to.

DACA has caused no harm to us. C. DACA is representative of the ideals of what we once were, the melting pot, and we would do well to get there again.


Being A Girl: A Brief Personal History of Violence

Wow really good- lays out a lot of experiencing in a relatable way so ppl understand. Thank you

The Belle Jar


I am six. My babysitter’s son, who is five but a whole head taller than me, likes to show me his penis. He does it when his mother isn’t looking. One time when I tell him not to, he holds me down and puts penis on my arm. I bite his shoulder, hard. He starts crying, pulls up his pants and runs upstairs to tell his mother that I bit him. I’m too embarrassed to tell anyone about the penis part, so they all just think I bit him for no reason.

I get in trouble first at the babysitter’s house, then later at home.

The next time the babysitter’s son tries to show me his penis, I don’t fight back because I don’t want to get in trouble.

One day I tell the babysitter what her son does, she tells me that he’s just a little boy, he doesn’t know…

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Rise Up

Our country has become a Twilight Zone with a daily barrage of insanity from the person elected to run it. Have you had enough fellow citizens?

Its hard not to get tired. Its hard to want to be pushing every day, but push we must — for equal rights, for clean water, for the environment, a free press, fair Senate hearings, and all things that make us the nation we are. The firing of security officials amidst an investigation should never be okay. Tampering with our election, even only theoretically, should never be okay.  When I talk with people who don’t like politics there’s a “I don’t care, it doesn’t affect me” attitude. Friends, let me tell you, ALL of it affects you. It would be folly to not understand the big picture.

We are so lucky to live where we do. California has many representatives that aren’t afraid to speak out against craziness that comes daily from the president. California acts a bit as a bubble for us in that its a given most people here care about the environment, equal rights, healthcare and other matters of importance.

Locally,  there are opportunities for marching, activism and political involvement everywhere. I have found its easiest not to get overwhelmed by joining one cause or group and just doing what you can. If all you can do is attend a march, do it. If all you can do is write or call your representatives, do it. History tells us that together can produce change.


“Fat” discrimination, “fat” justice

I recently attended a lecture at Sonoma State University as part of their “Feminist Lecture Series.” The theme of this lecture was”Fat Justice.”

At size 2, I am in no way “fat.” I don’t have experience being overweight but types of discrimination are numerous and I strive to be informed as much as I can. Discrimination against overweight people is one part of interlocking systems of discrimination against the LGBTQ community, disabled ppl (ableism), racism….Just as with these forms of oppression and discrimination there are many assumptions made about overweight ppl that non-overweight ppl project onto them. Overweight ppl are subjected to ideas that they have no self control, that they are food addicts, that they are lazy..none of which may be true. There are ppl that fetish-ize overweight ppl and in doing so, view them as less than human.

Disabled ppl experience treatment similar to overweight ppl. People offer unwanted advice, ask questions, make uncalled for remarks. People who don’t experience being overweight have views that may not be realistic of overweight ppl.

Overweight ppl have access ppl that thinner ppl don’t such as access issues getting seating in public spaces, as one example. Overweight people are treated with hostility as if they choose to take up extra room instead of being viewed as humans who are simply a different size that needs to be accommodated (ie like tall ppl, short ppl, kids, etc)

On the flipside thin ppl are also subjected to unwanted advice from people “you should eat more” etc. At the same time skinny ppl are subjected to the idea that being skinny is normative and outsiders can subject them to “fat fears” and surveillance…”you look so much better since you lost weight,” “you’re eating so healthy” “I don’t want to get fat,”  etc.  Our culture has an obsession with “fatness” and the avoidance of it.


Ways that we as a culture can fight “fat discrimination” is to avoid complimenting ppl for thinness, if they have lost weight compliment hair or something other than their body shape. Dont laugh at “fat jokes.” Look at overweight ppl with humanness and advocate for access for overweight ppl (such as with school desk sizes, airplane seats, etc). There are many ways we as a culture together can combat this.

Trans Resistance Against Trump

I recently attended a lecture at Sonoma State University as part of their “Feminist Lecture Series.” The theme of this lecture was “Trans Resistance Against Trump.” The speaker was a trans woman named Mia. Per her bio, “Mia Satya is a trailblazing community organizer with over a decade of advocacy experience. Mia Satya has served on over 10 committees in 5 San Francisco city government departments and played key roles in the re-authorization of the Children’s Fund that secured $150 million a year in critical services. Mia is the first transsexual graduate of Emerge, the premiere statewide political training program for women. In 2016 Mia was honored as San Fransisco Pride Grand Marshall and was elected delegate to the Democratic National Convention. Mia Satya is the founder of All Out: the LGBTQ+ Political Pipeline, which educates and connects youth to create change.”

Mia spoke about things that I as a cis woman had not thought about. OF course I think we’re all aware Trump isn’t exactly an advocate of trans rights, or womens’ rights in general.  Mia provided an overview of all the ways trans rights are impacted by areas of government — housing, healthcare, education, mental health, safety, incarceration…Government organizations and branches without a plan for dealing with trans people endangers trans people. (HHS, HUD, Census, DOE, SCOTUS)

In the last presidential election, trans communities supported Hillary Clinton and Bernie Sanders, who both sadly lost. There was and is a vast difference in views between presidential candidates of last year regarding trans rights (including our current president).


As with a lot of crimes where people fear for themselves or are shamed by the reporting process, trans crimes are underrepresented by statistics as they go underreported. Less than half a percent of the population is trans and yet trans crimes are disproportionately higher than a lot of other populations.

Trans people should have equal rights — everywhere. They should have protections in all areas of government oversight that affects them –military, policing (public safety laws), housing fairness, schools (bathrooms!) violence prevention & healthcare to deal with the community’s  specific needs.  The ACA covers (covered?) trans needs.


Additionally trans ppl arent being included in the census which is a HUGE disservice to the trans community but to everyone else. We deserve to know who our populations are. Trans ppl still need to fight for inclusion, even in areas of life they should be welcomed like the recent Women’s March. Hate crimes are reportedly up since Trump’s election. 78-80% of hate crimes are against trans people per Mia.

Trans rights to EXIST are the issue in this country, NOT bathrooms.


Ways that non-trans ppl can help is to call out rules and laws that are discriminatory, as well as situations where trans bigotry is on display.

Thank you Mia. I learned so much. I pledge to continue learning more. We all owe it to the trans community to learn the needs that government is ignoring and to create inclusion wherever its needed. Listen, call out. donate.


sources for more information:

National Center for Gender Equality

TGI Justice Project

Trans Women of Color

TAJA Coalition








email reply to Sen. Mooney

“And each year in our nation, 1.6 million innocent babies are slaughtered for the mere crime of being born” Sir with all due respect, I think you dont realize these babies have not been born. And none are considered “babies” in utero.

Men should not make decisions for women, certainly not medical ones, for this very reason